Can I bring my partner or family member with me?
Yes, of course! I’m a relationship and sex therapist. So, you are definitely welcome to bring your romantic partner or family member with you. If you are experiencing a conflict with a loved one or want to enhance your relationship with someone, it is certainly helpful to have them in the room with us. They are welcome to join us at any time.
Will you take my partner’s side?
Luckily, the therapy office is not a court room. In fact, many couples are trying to avoid the court room. 🙂 Some people are nervous that I’ll take their partner’s side and others are hoping I’ll take their side. When I meet with a couple though, I am not thinking about whose fault it is or whose side I am going to be on. Rather, I see all of us on the same side and we are continuously working toward what is best for the relationship. When partners see themselves as a team working together, that’s when we can really work towards results and success! You will notice that I use a lot of “we and us” language. That’s because we all have the same goal – improving your relationship and enhancing your connection together.
This sounds expensive. Will it work? What is your success rate in helping couples repair their connection after an affair?
I often relate myself to a physical trainer at the gym. I can give you the exercises and strategies to help you reach your goals. I can demonstrate and model good communication techniques for you to incorporate with your partner. Ultimately though, it’s up to you to implement these skills! If you both come to therapy willing to do the work, able to reflect on the role you each play in the dynamic, and ready to make some changes, then absolutely this can work!
In terms of a financial commitment, think about it this way. About 10 sessions is $2500. Going through a divorce because you can’t work this out on your own together would be a lot more expensive. For the price of a small vacation, you can start the groundwork to repair the trust, rebuild your connection, and get your relationship back on track.
I have helped many couples have a better marriage than ever before. Additionally, I love progress and I love working with couples who are motivated to do the work. It is my goal for you to start seeing some improvement even with the very first session.
This seems like hard work. How long will it take to reach our goals?
Therapy can be hard work. It is also some of the most meaningful and rewarding work you’ll ever do! The results are so worth it. I promise to be with you every step of the way, coaching you through it and helping you get the results you want.
Everyone’s circumstances are unique and the length of time therapy can take to allow you to accomplish your goals depends on your desire for personal development, your commitment, and the factors that are driving you to seek therapy in the first place.
Your active participation and dedication to the therapeutic process is crucial to your success. The more you put into your sessions, the more you will get from therapy. Additionally, the work you do outside of our sessions will really help you see your personal growth and development.
What modalities do you use as a therapist?
As a clinical social worker, I am trained in a variety of evidence-based modalities including cognitive behavioral therapies and attachment-based therapy. I often integrate a variety of modalities and tailor my therapeutic approach to your specific needs. My work is influenced by Esther Perel and David Schnarch.
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
- Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy
- The Gottman Method of Couples Therapy
- Schema Therapy
- Sex Therapy
- Trauma Focused